A wise teacher once said, “Our emotions are our children and intuition is our teacher.” This statement only makes sense if there is a difference between emotions and intuition. We know the difference by making a distinction.
Here may be some distinctions – Intuition is more subtle than emotions. Feelings come from needs and demand attention, Intuition whispers about inconsistencies and incongruencies. Spending time with each of these draws a more in-depth definition, and may change a course of action. Following emotions may lead in a different direction than intuition. Intuition may offer more options than feelings.
Distinctions are important.
Here is another example. Justin and Julie have been married for six years. According to Justin, Julie spends too much money on frivolous things. Justin’s response varies according to the level of threat the spending is causing. If there is a lot of income, Justin is annoyed. If income is scarce, Justin may feel Anger or Rage. If Justin doesn’t know the difference between annoyance, irritation, anger, and rage, he may ignore annoyance and quickly move to anger and rage. Justin can escalate the problem. A friend of mine, Jim, a police officer, was called to a violent domestic dispute. The problem escalated from a lost wallet.
I can assist you, but I won’t help you.
Distinctions are important. They can also be fun. A fellow counselling colleague often says to her clients, “I can assist you, but I won’t help you.” Her clients had to think about the difference, and that difference empowered them to see their resources and ask for only what they need, not what they think they need.
I have included as an attachment, a sheet of 100 Distinctions provided by Coachville. I hope these inspire you to live life on your terms because you have boundaries that serve you and give you freedom and peace of mind.